Anonymous discussion · Need to talk
Struggling with Unreliable Calls in a Long-Distance Relationship
I’m tired of pretending one cancelled call doesn’t matter when it keeps happening. We’re long distance, so scheduled calls are not some extra thing for me. I arranged my evening around it, and they cancelled because something else came up without suggesting another time. I know they’re allowed to be busy. I’m not asking for constant availability. But somehow I’m always expected to just be there whenever they’re free, and I keep lowering the standard and still feel disappointed. I sent a direct message asking for one reliable weekly call and for us to make another plan when one gets cancelled. Now I’m worried I’ll sound needy or difficult, but I also can’t keep acting like this is fine. Should I keep asking for a concrete change, or stop arranging my life around them and see what they actually do?