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Struggling with Self-Confidence After Office Photos Comparison
Why do I look so bad in those photos when everyone else looks normal? Flatmate shared the office get-together pics in our group and then casually said the colleague is naturally photogenic. I know she didn’t do anything wrong, and maybe it’s just lighting, tired face and a bad angle, but now I can’t stop comparing. She got compliments and I just look like the tired, heavier one standing beside her. It’s honestly affecting my confidence more than it should, even thinking about the next team gathering and dating also, stupidly. I feel petty for being irritated because the colleague did nothing. But the photos are still there in the chat and I keep checking them. Should I quietly ask my flatmate not to post/tag those ones, or will that make it obvious I’m insecure? Maybe I should just leave it and stop looking, but why is one random photo making me feel like people only tolerate me in the group and don’t actually notice me positively.